Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Money bag

Hey people,
Happy new month to you.I hope the year is going well so far? This year promises to be a very good and sweet one,i can feel it in my bones.Have you noticed that Blogville still isn't back to it's normal state? Lots of bloggers are still AWOL and the ones present don't blog as often as usual (myself inclusive *stares at feet with hands behind back*).That's not the main matter on the table today,so lets just go right into it.

Have you noticed how some girls/ladies/women feel it is their right to demand money from men? That it is normal,and should remain so,for men to be the ones giving and buying things in whatever form of relationship they are in? I was discussing with a group of women the other day and it was funny to learn that this is how their minds are wired in terms of giving and buying.They were of the opinion that men ought to be the ones giving money and buying gifts in any relationship at all,whether a romantic/sexual or platonic relationship.I could only laugh at their line of thought,and that if they meet a man who doesn't give them money,they would walk away.Personally,i feel there's something wrong with this line of thought.

Men are now hunters and their preys are the,permit me to use the word myopic,women.I use the term myopic because these women are near-sighted in this regard.They fail to realize that a man can be giving them money and buying them gifts,but at the same time expecting they would reciprocate once in a while,however long or short.Many a man out there want women who are not after their money,women who are self reliant,independent,and having the notion that the man ought to be the one spending would cut across as you being selfish and dependent on their pocket.I doubt if there are men who want such kind of woman these days.In the days of old,men didn't mind giving money and buying gifts,they didn't expect the women to give money of buy gifts.But that is what it is,the OLD days.Now men want independent women.Women who wouldn't be dependent on their pockets.Don't get me wrong though,the men don't mind spending on their women,but they don't want the women to be in a fix when they possibly are financially incapacitated.They want women who would be supportive in all areas.If i'm temporarily financially incapacitated,will you find it hard to get by? Will you be looking for alternative sources or you are self dependent?

Furthermore,women with these thought pattern are the ones who gave some men the notion that "as far as they require your money,they should be willing to give something in return".Some men feel it is their right to get something from a woman after giving her money or they don't even give at all if the woman refuses to play ball.They believe 'if the women take me as a money bag,i'd take them as sex toys".I can't really say how it all started,whether the chicken came before the egg or the egg came before the chicken,all i know is that kind of mindset is detrimental to the personality of the women with such.Do you think i'm on the right track?


10 comments:

  1. This topic sef has been over flogged. Talking about it 1million times wont change the notion of some of these people. If as a lady, you feel that the guy should be totally responsible for you, you have to understand that you will attract a certain type of guys, the ones who will view you as a property. Hence, you have to be prepared for what comes with the money package.....a la, 24/7 on call duty (for food, chitchat, sex(maybe) bla bla bla). If you are cool with that, aint no problem with the world.
    On the flip, as a guy, if what you want is a Miss Keri babybee Independent, you better not be the type who expects your SO to always revert to you on every decision or run every gaddamn decision by you before making choices. It's just the way it is.

    For every girl who monetizes a relationship, there are men who can satisfy this need, but they also come with their own requirements..So if both parties are in agreement of what they want, expect et al, all is really well with the world!

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    1. Pls tell that man to give you a kiss for me.Would have done it myself,but i don't want to start worlld war IV.Very well said.

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    2. Agree with you HD.....there are 2 sides to a coin....and one size shoe does not fit all.

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  2. LOL, men have spent the whole of existence trying to convince women that they are meant to be subservient and dependent on men for damn near everything. Now that some women have decided that's cool with them, there's still complaints. #manlogic

    But yeah, what HoneyDame said!

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    1. Word LadyNgo and yeah HoneyDame too

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    2. True,but you will agree that alot has changed.Our fathers didn't want our mothers to work,but that's not the case now.The world has evolved,men still want to take care of their women,spend on them,but most men don't want a totally dependent woman.

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  3. I believe that it's fine for a girl to spend on a guy too nothing wrong with that t the guy too should spend on her too. It should sorta go both ways buttttttt.......some girls have this notion of guys spending mostly on them from experience. Some guys just won't spend and when they spend it's not even noticed or such like that but the girl might have spent a lot and it's obvious. So perhaps from experience, they've pulled back and decided that they won't spend (again) as much or at all on men. Pretty much what HD said.
    But yes women should not always leave the spending to men only well ALL the spending.
    LadyNgo is right too, men have always assumed the position that they are important figure and women are under men hence why women think 'you're the important figure therefore you do the spending'

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    1. This is what i'm talking about @ "But yes women should not always leave the spending to men" lol

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  4. Just seeing this post. Its just some certain type of girls that think this way. The people that like those kind will marry them. No lady who has foresight, vision and wants affect her world positively will be waiting for a man to buy her every pant and bra.

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    1. I wish the kind of women i was referring to would see this.Nice one.

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