Monday, July 29, 2013

Limits

Hey people,how have you been and how did your weekend go? Hope your week wasn't as stressful as mine? Lest i forget,i'm sorry i couldn't come through this past week with Poetic Thursday,the week didn't take it easy with me.Before i go right into the post for today,let me use this opportunity to say a gigantic CONGRATULATIONS!!! to Aloted.She put to bed a bouncing baby boy a few weeks back and we're very excited for her.God,indeed,is awesome!!! You know,it's always cool to hear that a woman gives birth and the baby,mother,father and entire family are doing fine.God bless you woman and that boisterous Bionic! Like i told you before,tell her not to take it easy with the JJC to the world! LOL

You know,we sometimes act without considering the consequences of our actions.Imagine a gurl calling every guy sweetheart,sweetie,love,baby etc when chatting with or talking on the phone with them.Apart from the ones that have serial 'mugus',they are innocent of cheating.But which guy will want to believe that when he sees those names that was supposed to be 'Limited Edition' with him enjoying the only copy,being dished out to others? Truth is,we need to have limits if we must have successful relationships with people.Regardless of whether they are friends or mere acquaintances.The fact that you people are best friends doesn't mean you shouldn't have limits when it comes to them.I'm going to highlight some of the limits that should be established so as to have respectful relationships with people.

1. As a lady,you should have LIMITS to what you share with your friends about your partner.I don't care how close you people are,you just need to draw a line.The human mind is very funny.There are some things you share with your friend about your partner and they lose respect for them or start seeing them in a very strange light.

2. As an individual,you need to have LIMITS to what you talk about when in a circle of friends.Truth is,not everyone in that circle wants your success.Sometimes,none of them want your success.

3. As a lady,you need to watch the closeness you share with a male that isn't your partner.Apart from the fact that it makes your partner uncomfortable,it also poses a threat to your relationship.The reason is that feelings begin to fly after sometime,whether from you or towards you,and these feelings are mostly blind to the fact that you already are in a relationship.The point also goes for the men.

4. As a person,you need to have LIMITS to what you share with your partner.Don't get me wrong though,i'm not saying you should hide stuffs from them,but you'd agree with me that it's inappropriate to let your partner know you have a crush on your best friend and wouldn't mind having a fling with them if the opportunity arises.

5. As a lady or guy,you need to have LIMITS to what you discuss or how you play with your friend's partner.There are some discussions that are simply INAPPROPRIATE,i don't care how close and how free you are with them.

6. As a lady or guy,you need to be mindful of your partner when you're chatting with someone who isn't your partner.That means you should watch the content of your chats.When chatting,ask yourself if you can allow your partner see the chats.

7. If the person is your mere acquaintance,then it means you should really have LIMITS.There are some questions you're not entitled to ask or answer or favors you're not expected to ask.

8. If you guys are acquaintances,then there are parts of the house that are off-limits.When you visit,please stay in the sitting room.

9. As a guy,if she's not your partner,then her boobs and ass are off-limits.I don't care if she's a bad gurl,don't touch or tap nada!!!

I'd stop here for now,but i'm sure you have an idea of what i'm talking about.Have a most pleasant day and week ahead.




28 comments:

  1. True talk...True Talk....Thanks for this post.

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  2. Thanks for stopping by and for the comment Dobby.

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  3. Very true. It's very easy to blur lines without intending to.

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  4. Thanks for the shout out :)
    When bobo grows up he will show Bionic and I will call u to come and finish fight.

    You have raised valid points. Gbamest!

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    1. Don't worry,i'll expose some strategies to her before then.

      Thanks.

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  5. Looll. Every point you made here all points out to the fact that we have to be considerate of other people's feelings.

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    1. Yeah.The consideration for other people's feelings,and also yours,should form the basis of you drawing limits to various things.

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  6. Okay, so its more like 'put yourself in the other person's shoes'...right? But frankly speaking some things are done without even giving it an after thought, its not on purpose

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    1. Yeah,sometimes things are done out of complete ignorance.

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  7. Great piece as always! Missing the poetry part just a little bit. Can't help it your work is amazing!!

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    1. Thanks alot.The poetry bits will come.

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  8. you have said it all. being considerate of our partners feelings knowing we wouldn't be happy if the tables were turned... so on point, thanks for the reminder.

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  9. Excess of anything is bad..
    we gotta make our own boundaries :)

    Have a nice weekend !!

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  10. Preach! *thinking aloud* I know someone who needs to read this, lemme goan use scope to direct her here* loool

    I'm a huge sucker for individual space, boundaries, drawing limits...so this makes huge sense :D

    Thanks for sharing

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    1. Hmmmm Oya drag her here sharp sharp.LOL

      I'm glad i shared.Thanks Dayor!

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  11. One word. Wow! very practical and insightful. I love this.

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    1. Thanks alot for stopping by and for the comment.I'm glad you love it.You should take your time to go over previous posts,i'm sure you love them.

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  12. I could not agree more. Thank you for sharing.

    http://www.daij62.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks for visiting and for the comment.

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