Monday, June 17, 2013

The wrong notion about men

Hey people,i hope you had as nice a weekend as i did? My weekend was quite busy,but in the end it was fun-filled and i spent a good deal of it with family.You know how i love family.

Twitter is a world of it's own as you know,and whenever you're there,you see lots of things ranging from funny to silly to crazy to weird to stupid to smart etc.Just this morning,i saw a reasonable tweet.Someone disputed the saying that "All men cheat because it's in their biological DNA to do so" and i agreed totally with her.A great deal (almost all the population) of women are of the opinion that all men cheat.This is based on the fact that the men they'd come across had cheated and/or they know men who cheat on their partners.This has restructured their mindset to believing it is a norm,thus taking some bull crap from men.Truthfully though,men cheat.I mean,they can be given medals for that.But another truth is,not all men do.There are still very good men out there who are faithful and would remain so.The problem with the line of thought that all men cheat is that it'll prevent you from having a good man by your side.Having the notion that all men cheat will allow you settle for a man with strings of women rather than a man who'd be faithful to you.Another thing wrong with that notion is that,when a faithful man does come along,you might mistake him for a cheater,thus losing him.Having that notion would definitely give rooms for steady suspicion even when there's none.The mind is a very funny thing and can find a conspiracy theory in everything once it is programmed to.

So,rather than consider all men cheats,consider,rather,the fact that not all men cheat.Have your self a very wonderful week ahead.I'm out!

28 comments:

  1. Well all i can say is men cheat,women cheat. as human beings we all don`t know how weak we are till we are on the spot. last time i checked Women try to out do themselves and take each others men,brag about it too. Its just crazy how men are always/most times on the bad side of things.

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    1. It's always a two way street actually.But facts still remains that there are men who don't cheat.

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    2. I totally agree with Didi's comment. It is a two way street. I def know that not all men cheat and I hope my future husby does not.

      Enjoy your week

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    3. True..not all men/women cheat.

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    1. Hmmmm And she appeared from nowhere.Hey you! *waves*

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  3. There are def men who don't cheat.

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  4. Right on Didi! I was just about to say that... men cheat, women cheat. You can't categorically say one gender cheats more than the other. Humans cheat! Like some humans steal.

    All humans have the ability to steal but only some do and same applies to men/women and cheating. It's a matter of principles. No two individuals are the same

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    1. The post didn't try to portray women as the only ones that cheat but to make everyone realize not all men cheat.

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  5. Cheating is not limited to a particular gender , I get what you mean by not accepting the notion that "all men cheat" , there are lots of men out there who are faithful...there is no need for generalization .

    Most times, we only see what we want to see...

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    1. Thank you for this "there are lots of men out there who are faithful...there is no need for generalization ."

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  6. Similarly, the glass is always half full not half-empty! Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Spot on! Thanks for stopping by Boma.

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  7. Well when addressing the issue of cheating,it is wise not to generalize. I don't believe it when some ladies say,all men are cheaters and vice-versa.. There are faithful men just like,there are faithful women.

    #shekina

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  8. I believe that one will always get what they expect. You forge your own reality.

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    1. You sabi book @ilola,that na why i like you.You forge your own reality! On point!

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  9. I think this issue should also take a look at the other side of things. Being that women cause many men to cheat. I speak as a female who has seen it time and time again. Man marries the prettiest lady around then a few years later she is looking fat and dressing in sweat pants! What man would want to come home to that? We stop dressing for our men, praising our men and just nag and complain. Then when he strays we get mad, because you sold that man an illusion and have gotten disrespectful.
    Thanks for being brave enough to start this topic..still love the poetry and those lips.
    AKA anonymous

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    1. I agree with you on the fact that women sometimes cause men to cheat.But the truth of the matter is,that's not reason enough.Every problem has a solution and every issue in marriage can be worked out.It's my opinion though.Thanks alot.

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  10. I don't think that way..
    I believe that every individual is capable of good and bad.. and generally those people are stupid when they make vague assumptions like that..

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  11. its like most topics, generalizing never works

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  12. This has inspired me to write a longer piece on the topic. I keep hearing that "all men cheat" phrase being thrown about and I honestly beg to differ

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