I was chatting with a friend some days back and she sorta started complaining about people taking her to be a problem solver.She was mad because she said she wanted friends and not people who only remember she exists when they need her help.I was a bit surprised and didn't fail to let her know.I wondered why she would be mad about that when she was supposed to be happy.Are you wondering why i was thinking in that direction? You won't have to wonder much longer.
First of all,if people come to me only when they need my favor,i willingly help that out with whatever,as far as it doesn't cause me pain or i don't have to sacrifice.Sometimes,i even sacrifice and go ahead and help them out even if i'll feel a measure of pain.The reason is that it simply makes me a problem solver and thus one step ahead of them.Plus,it gives me the feeling of superiority...call me whatever you like,i don't care.Hehehehehehehe Another reason why i don't mind such people at all is that they make it very clear that they're not friends.Friends don't come only when they need your help,they stick around at all times.Whether the going is good or bad,whether they need your help or not,they just stick around.So these people make it easy for you to know your friends.You are well aware that some people who pretend to be friends are indeed enemies,so why would i not be happy to have someone readily make me know he's not my friend?
If you usually have the same feeling my friend had,then here's your problem; you make people friends easily forgetting that friendship is a privilege and not a right.A privilege that the person who needs it will work to earn.For me,i know my friends and i also know those who think me their friend,those are two different things.I don't allow people into that friend-zone easily,i make them work hard for it and when they do get into that zone,they know why i don't allow people in easily.My advice? Don't allow people into your life easily,let them work for it.I'm not saying you shouldn't be friendly.By all means be friendly but cautious in making people your friends.Or,don't you agree with me?