Something just struck me this morning when i got to the office and that was COMPARISON.Some people are so fond of comparing people with other people.This plague,like i choose to call it,is everywhere.It's in the family,relationships,amongst friends and so on.
I was in the middle of the comparison 'crime' committed by parents.I was always compared to a friend of mine and that almost created a little lacuna (chei,see oyinbo...nothing do me joor) in our friendship.His father was always going on and on about me and he felt very sad and maybe a little unloved,this created a strain in the relationship between himself and his dad.When i realized that was the case,i started making some adjustments.I stopped being smart around his dad and became a little way-ward and trust me,it helped in a way because it stopped to a great extent.His mother wasn't left out in the crime,but hers was quite minimal compared to her husband's.
Also,in relationships people make the mistake of comparing their partners to other partners or their relationships to other people's relationships.The resultant effect is that when done by a gurl,she makes her man feel like shit and men are very sensitive when it has to do with their ego.So,when compared to another guy,a guy starts pulling away because his ego gets hurt and eventually if sensitivity isn't applied,he generally quits the relationship.
Like i said in the title,comparison should be a crime.Some people don't just get the fact that it is very wrong to compare people.First of all,lots of times they don't even know your story,yet they feel they can conclude and compare you to some other person.The ones that even know you and your story,instead of realizing that is who you are,rather compare you because they expect more from you.If you are one of such persons,i've got news for you.The next time you feel the urge to compare,use yourself and live that person the hell alone,he or she could do without your damn comparison.My elder brother's ex was guilty of this too.She tried to compare her relationship with my brother to my relationship with my gurl at that time simply because she felt my relationship was perfect (at a point it actually was sha...hehehehe),but she didn't know what was underneath all she was seeing.And that is the case with most people that are into comparisons,they don't know what's underneath,they just go ahead and compare.So,comparison should be a crime because it hurts people very much.Some people are trying their best to be better and yet some other people instead of encouraging them feel it's preferable to compare them to other people.It is just so effing wrong and those people should be punished by being sent to jail or giving some very good strokes of the cane.Let me ask those people who feel it's ok to compare people this very simple question; is everything about and around that person thesame with the person they want to compare them with? I mean physically,spiritually,emotionally,environmentally, etc.? NO! So comparison is never ever fair and should be avoided like a plague that it is.My people,na so e do me today o,make una no mind me...hehehehehehe.Have a very nice day people!