I think one of the things i learnt first as a kid was "Charity begins at home".Meaning you should take care of things around you before you consider taking care of other things.I know this doesn't relate to the topic,but in a way it does.Many people are chattering about how they are not respected and so on and so on,meanwhile they are the main problem.The way some people live their lives are so very down-grading.They don't realize that the importance you place on yourself is the importance people will place on you.They don't respect themselves and yet want people to respect them.There's this man working as a driver for the other company in thesame building as the company i work with,he is a good definition of disrespect to self.He's rarely sober at one point,and his sight alone is just annoying.He's talking to you and his breath is reeking of cheap alcohol at 9 or 10 in the morning.It got so annoying the day he came to me to ask me for money,obviously for a smoke or cheap booze.First off,his manner of approach was so very irritating..."Come,give me ...naira".No good morning or how you dey or anything.It was as if he gave me some money to keep for him.From that day on,he became very obnoxious in my sight.I see little gurls talk to him with serious disrespect and the day i heard he has grown up children,my heart got broken even more.I mean,he's like a little boy before the eyes of people around,they talk to him with impudence.
I know you might be tempted to say it's because he's not rich or that he's a driver and people don't give respect to such persons,but permit me to say it's not true.His colleague...i mean his fellow driver working in thesame company as him...is reasonable and about thesame age as him.He respects himself and is respected by everyone.When it comes to respect,it is true that lots of times money plays a very huge role,but that has to do with serious issues and maybe family.But when it comes to your neighborhood or work place,money doesn't cut it.You have to respect yourself for people to respect you.Even in the family,respecting yourself gives you a very great level of respect.Even if you are not given the right to make certain decisions because you're not wealthy,they still don't disrespect you.
Furthermore,some women cry about respect when in the actual sense they can't even earn it.I mean,you can openly sleep with a circle of friends and want to be respected.You can't earn respect when you call yourself a bitch or party from friday to friday...that is definitely not respecting yourself.You definitely can't expect to be respected when you allow different guys tap your ass all in the name of 'playing'.The way you relate is the way people relate with you.I particularly have interest in this because lots of women claim they're not respected.Well,there are a number of reasons why that is so,lemme be a nice 9ja-great and list a few of those;
1.You depend on various men to live...then you're their property.
2.You call yourself a bitch...you definitely would be treated as such.
3.You sleep with a circle of friends...you're their play thing.
4.Your idea of fun is regular sleeping around with random men...well,this is the much respect you get...NOTHING!
5.You party on a daily...you obviously are unserious so no one will take you serious.
I think i've said enough already,by now you should've gotten the picture.Have a nice day people and please self respect is your gateway to being respected by other people.