The last post i made E is for Emergency inspired this post because the reactions i got were very nice and some were plain amazing...in a wrong way.It is true that we are all clamoring for women empowerment,it is true we all believe very strongly in the capabilities of women,but that shouldn't give the women the idea or notion that they are equal to men,that is very wrong normally and even religiously.Permit me to dabble into the religious sphere in this post as i try to drive home my point.
The reason why some women 'holla' gender equality is simply because we have some very disgraceful men out there,who would rather sit down and wait for their wives to go out and make money for the family.Some men are so pathetic that they allow their wives go out,hustle in whatever way they can and bring money for them to feed on and run the family.The most pathetic thing is that some of these men even still use their wives money to chase other women...please,someone should give them wrappers abeg! It is not cool to sit at home watching TV while your wives is out there working her ass off,your JOB! It is not cool to be at a beer parlor with your fellow jobless and visionless friends in the early hours of the day when your mates are in various places trying to make money for their families.
I have never witnessed a woman who is the bread winner of the family being comfortable with the fact that her husband is such that is jobless and comfortable with it.Such that doesn't make any move to look for a job or at least engage in something that would fetch him money at the end of the day.I have never seen a woman who'd have such husband and be comfortable and happy and all lovey-dovey with such man.Don't get me wrong though,we have women doing the bread winning in lots of homes,but the plain truth is that they are unfulfilled and unhappy women.The reason is not far fetched,it is simply because it is not in their place to be the bread winners.They can assist in the running of the home with their finances,that is allowed,but it shouldn't be a normal occurrence.I have witnessed women screaming and raining curses on their 'lazy-ass-husbands' using words like, "You're not even ashamed,your mates are out there looking for money and you're here eating my money", "Are you a man at all?", "You should be ashamed of yourself being fed by a woman", "Just shut up o,afterall i feed you".(If you feel i haven't witness stuffs like those,then just take it that they are what the women who are in such situation say).Women who say they're ok with them being the bread winner (obviously the ones who scream gender equality) don't see the loopholes in that line of thought.They are,permit me to use the word 'Shortsighted',yes they are.They may feel it's alright but when they really get into it,they'd see the grievous disadvantages of it.I mean how would you feel if you come home with your friend or colleagues in the middle of the day and they see your husband all relaxed at home,watching TV? I have never heard of a woman who is happy in her marriage being the bread winner,but i have heard and witnessed lots of women dish out deserving insults to their lazy husbands.
Again,i'd now like to dabble,like i said i would,into the religious angle to this.The bible stated it in 1 Timothy 5 verse 8 that "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel".The reason why the bible used 'His' is because the man was normally considered the head of the family,that is seen in 1 Corinthian 11 verse 3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God".If the bible considered man the head of the home,just as Christ is the head of the man,will it then be realistic to consider man and woman equal? Don't misunderstand me,i am not saying women shouldn't be empowered,i am not saying they shouldn't be equipped with certain rights,all i am implying is that a woman should never consider herself equal to a man.A woman should never attempt assuming the roles of a man when the man isn't dead.Everyone has his role in the family,the man and the woman alike,the man shouldn't attempt to take the role of the woman and the woman shouldn't attempt to assume the role of the man.
Finally,it is very much allowed for a woman to support in the running of the home,no harm in that.But her husband should be man enough to provide for his family.However,there are times when the woman earn more than the man,it is allowed for her to spend,i mean the man isn't idle and in reality he is taking care of his home.It is not just in money alone,but in the sweat that comes out of him while in search of money that counts.When Adam and Eve were driven out of the garden of Eden,God leveled punishments on both of them.One of man's punishment was that he'll sweat before he'll eat,he'll work the ground real hard before he'll feed.He didn't give that same punishment to woman,her's was different.Oh well,this is just my own view on the subject.Have a nice day people!